It’s November and chances are you are seeing more of the
word “gratitude” pop up in your social media feeds and in TV commercials. That is when there aren’t political
commercials.
When the pandemic first started, I had a very good practice
of giving gratitude daily and documenting it. It was a way to help keep me
organized, draw some boundaries over grieving the situation we were in and help
keep my mindset positive.
Gratitude has been hard to find these last few months. Let’s
face it. I’m terrified for what’s to come tomorrow. I cannot live another 4
years of this reality TV show. The shattered America and disastrous mess the
man has created and that we are living in has ripped apart my sense of gratitude.
However, as we were working on a gratitude roll up for some
social media for work I took a stab at a blog (for the work blog and tweaked a bit for here) about the
effects it can have on your mental health. Then my mom started an ABC’s of
gratitude and I started to feel the gratitude fuzzies again!
Giving gratitude in November seems in part tradition because
many families and friends can be found going around the table at Thanksgiving sharing
what they are grateful for. After all, it’s “thanks” “giving.” Supper Club friends, I am already sad about missing this in 2020. One of my best memories is in 2016, chanting "Obama" after every statement of gratitude and the more wine that was drank the louder "Obama" became! The good old days!
We also can’t fail to mention the positive effect giving
gratitude can have on ones health and wellness.
When I’ve done a presentation about “Living your best life with MG,” I
reference the book “29 Gifts” by Cami Walker in which she practices giving
gratitude for 29 straight days and what she notices about her health as she
battles multiple sclerosis. I’ve also
written about trying to follow her 29 days plan. It’s so much fun if you’ve
never tried it before!
According to a 2012 study by the University of Kentucky and
published in Forbes in 2014, giving gratitude can enhance empathy, reduce
aggression, improve sleep, decrease depression as well as people who practice
regular gratitude have fewer aches and pains.
Sounds like an easy prescription to enhance your health, huh?
Although I do get it, as somebody who faces MG day in and
day, there are days when it would be easier to be a grump
and ungrateful. You can’t deny that it
stinks to be living with a debilitating illness.
But then I think of the world and how much better off it
would be if we all took baby steps in
gratitude. Even for the simplest things like, enough soap to wash our hands, um
hello COVID-19, a person holding open the door, your furry friends using the outdoor facilities
instead of your favorite rug, friends leaving a fountain diet coke on your doorstep, a real card in the mail. Giving gratitude and saying thank you are
virtually free. It doesn’t cost you anything to have gratitude.
It’s kind of like looking at a glass either half full or
half empty. A few years ago, I asked a
room full of people living with MG what the best thing about having MG
was. Of course that was followed up with
the question, “what is the worst thing about having MG.” The room grew quiet. I’m pretty sure a handful of them thought I
was crazy. Probably still think that! Not many people offered input
so I spoke something along the lines of this, “I’m grateful for my health,
having MG has introduced me to many people I would not know otherwise and I know
it could be so much worse.” I firmly
believe that. There IS good in every little thing.
So call me weird, call me crazy, but one of my most favorite
things is to hear what others are grateful for.
It brings a smile to my face.
Chances are it reminds me of something I’m grateful for in my own life. It sparks connections with people you never
knew you had. “Oh, Kim Crawford is your favorite Sauvignon blanc? Mine
too!” It lightens the world and takes a
load off your shoulders.
What are you grateful for this year?